You should sit in meditation for 20 minutes a day, unless you’re too busy; then you should sit for an hour. ~ Old Zen saying
I find it easy to be busy. Easy to let the tasks of life fill the days and create a sense of pressure. And though I’ve streamlined my holiday plans, December is not a month that lends itself to a slower pace.
Well, let’s be honest…is there any month that slows down? Not on my calendar.
And if I’m already busy, how am I supposed to carve out extra time to sit and meditate? Or find the quiet for reading and reflection?
It’s like so many other paradoxes in life:
The more love you give away, the more you have.
Without darkness there can be no light.
The pursuit of happiness makes people unhappy.
What is this strange logic that works in spite of itself?
The way I make sense of it is to understand the power of deliberate choice.
I can’t tell you how much time I’ve lost doing useful things that were unplanned. I sidetrack myself when I sit down to online work and before I begin I have to check email, my bank balance, my credit card charges, my this, my that, my other….All helpful, but not necessarily helping me to the end point, the goal of why I sat down with my computer in the first place.
Other times it’s errands. I have something that I need to do, but I tack on other stops since I’m out. Sometimes I lose whole afternoons to things that didn’t have to be, just because I was out and about anyway.
That may sound like good planning, batching running around and being efficient.
But the busyness also gives me a false sense of accomplishment. It’s easy to get to the end of one of those days and kid myself that I’ve done a lot, when in fact I’ve done very little that I needed to do, or wanted to do.
I’ve done what was in front of me to do, just following the line of busyness right into exhaustion.
But when I choose and stick to my choices, I control the game. When I set aside an hour to meditate, or an hour to read something powerful, I know I won’t have time to check all my favorite sites, or watch a casual hour of TV. I’ve chosen, I’ve committed myself. The decision is made up front, and I’m not even tempted to the things that nickel and dime my hours.
I’m still working on the discipline to set a specific time to read, and a time to meditate. I’ve been traveling, and that’s never a time to create a new routine.
But the paradox is also…if I put off until it’s convenient, it will never happen.
When I tell myself I’m too busy, I’m not always truthful. I may be filling my time, but I’ll acknowledge there’s a big difference between busy and productive.
Not that I think there’s no room for down time in life. Of course I need the down time, the lazy afternoons or slow mornings when I feel the luxury of a change of pace or the joy of the unexpected.
I try to get around this with lists. Yes, I’ve written about the power of lists before, and how as a list maker I’m compelled to check off things as they’re done. But here’s the thing…if I’m deliberate about sticking to my list, I’m better about avoiding the time-suckers. Because you know what never makes it on my list?
Funny, I never list browsing on Pinterest.
I never schedule time for catching up on Facebook.
I never set aside time to aimlessly wander the internet.
Not that there’s anything wrong with that, she hastened to add!
But you know what I mean. It’s ok to do it now and then. But too many of those side trips and I’ve eaten up my hour to sit, or my time to read something inspiring, given away all my opportunity for real, and substituted illusion.
Do you ever catch yourself doing that? Give up real for illusion?
One of the words I heard over and over again at the meditation retreat was “balance.” The need for balance is a struggle for most people, and that’s pretty well acknowledged. There are whole book store aisles devoted to time management and work/life balance, personal/family balance, etc., etc., etc.
However you manage it, here’s my tip: Choose, and choose wisely. Be deliberate. Be intentional. Be picky. Be focused. Be honest with yourself and with your time.
And maybe, just maybe, the next time you’re really busy? You’ll find yourself sitting for an hour, and you’ll know it was just what you needed to do.
Hope overcomes doubt.
No guilt, no telling yourself you don’t have time.
Seek freedom and become captive of your desires. Seek discipline and find your liberty. ~ Frank Herbert
“Love” this!! And, so very true!
I hear in the aMAYzing blog a phrase we say quite often in our Life Coaching (www.WGHJministries.com) —- “Don’t just let life happen to you, Make your life happen”!
And, how do we do this — having boundaries and balance — being deliberate and intentional — just what you said, Sheila. You nailed it!!
We do and we encourage our clients to schedule on their “lists” time to rest, time for intentional TV or Pinterest or internet browsing, and time to just “Be” (meditation time)!
You statement, ” if I put off until it’s convenient, it will never happen” is the key here!
Say “No” to the good stuff in your life so you can shout “YES” to the Great things in you life”!! ~ Richard & JeannaLynn May
And remember, if everything is great, then nothing is great!
Thank you, Sheila, for such an inspiring post!
We have a request for you to repost or revise and post your “My One Word” blog!
“Seek freedom and become captive of your desires. Seek discipline and find your liberty.”
Or seek nothing…and discover what it’s like to be alive. Beyond the hive.
Sheila, Isn’t there an equation in there that time spent on the Internet (and social media sites) goes faster than time spent doing other things?!! I loved the timing of your post -in December- as a reminder to deliberately choose. I used to plan out everything and then become upset about the detours. I have since learned that God puts (some) interruptions into my life for good. As you aptly said, balance is the key!
Okay, with my novel out, readings lined up, my son getting married, Christmas around the corner…I need the hour. Maybe two….